My Lady.
I flirt a lot online. I find it fun and a huge boost to my self-esteem. I’m also engaged to a wonderful woman that I’ve been with for a month shy of 8 years. Yesterday on Twitter I was asked how those two things mix.
A is a wonderful lady. She’s the light of my life and the reason I continue to exist. We share pretty much everything we do.
The biggest difference between us is our sex drives. We both led socially retarded lives for quite a while and we’ve both taken huge strides in growing as sexual entities, it turns out I have a MUCH stronger sex drive than her. She can get by with a shag once every few days where I can barely operate if I don’t get off once or twice a day.
Being the wonderful woman she is, she’s made concessions. I have a large collection of pornographic content on the home PC which I use regularly. We jokingly call it “playing solitaire”. She checks it out every so often because I like funny porn but I don’t think she’s ever really made use of it.
Then there are my online friends. I have a few who I met on Twitter. We became friends and the flirting ramped up more and more until IM sex was occurring. Now, I’m a writer and a roleplayer. I can being both those things to bare during IM sex and I find it a lot of fun. It’s also IMHO completely harmless if you know who you’re doing it with and don’t confuse it for something more. I always make my situation and my intentions clear.
I asked A if it was OK with her that I had IM sex. She said that it was. The reasoning was that even if there were the chance of actual physical contact, I would NEVER take advantage of it. A is the only woman for me, no matter what my libido says.
She wavers sometimes. Her imagination gets the better of her from time-to-time and she starts to think there’s a chance I’ll leave her. Even if the sexiest woman alive did her absolute best to seduce me, it would be a fruitless effort on her part. My online sexual relationships are basically friends being horny together. It’s completely ridiculous, but her imagination during her period is a scary thing indeed. I don’t begrudge her for it usually.
I think that little voice in her head telling her I’m looking to get out is subconsciously pushing her to step up her game. She’s been a LOT more open sexually lately. Last weekend we had more sex than I think we ever have in a 3-day span. She went to a sex store with me in an effort to fix her oral sex problem (she doesn’t mind oral but she apparently needs a flavoured lube or else it’s a no-go) which let to my our first blowjob!I’m going to buy her some toys, which A says will help further increase her drive.
Once we tried using a big peeled cucumber as a dildo. She didn’t remember to take it out of the fridge so it was pretty cold, which made her clench around it. It was a lot of fun fucking her with something other than my rod. After she was done with it I ate it. A turn-on for her and an aphrodisiac for me. Later while eating her out I got a big glob of cucumber pulp up my nose. Not so sexy but very funny.
We’ve been doing the sex talk more and more. She said my cock was “burning” inside her last night. We’ve made each other beg for orgasm on a regular basis. She’s got this evil little grin that drives me wild, but I know how to take advantage of all her erogenous zones.
One thing we do that I don’t hear a lot about is sex competitions. Once I get her to the same level that I’m at (usually around 3 or 4 orgasms in her initial desire is partially sated) we bet a house chore or something on who can make who orgasm next. It’s a lot of fun and adds a naughty competitiveness to a relationship. I’d recommend it to any couple who knows how to really play each other and have a solid sexual relationship that can take a bit of laughter.
She’s still coming out of her social shell, which has been occuring at a snail’s pace since the twin towers fell. It’s not just sex. Any sort of communication with another person used to be a real strain for her. Now she’s getting along super with my family and almost as good with my friends. She doesn’t have any IRL people she’d call friends per-se, so I’m always trying to get her to talk to acquaintances of mine. If she hits it off with one of them and finally has someone safe to bitch about me to, I’ll be really happy.
Her next big leap will be doing a little sexy photoshoot. I already did one and I’ll post both here soon. Once that’s done we’re thinking of doing a vid.
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