And out of that haven came the Blue Blossom Glass Ben Wa Balls, an adorable pair of glass balls with a delicate blue and green blooming blossom in the center. At first glance, you wouldn’t even know they were meant to be used as sex toys! The glass is hypoallergenic and, of course, waterproof.  To clean, rinse with warm water and a mild soap and store in the accompanying carry case.

The Blue Blossom Ben Wa Balls‘ packaging itself does not come with any instructions for use, although “insert into vagina” seems to be easy enough. There isn’t anything listed in regards to easy removal, how long one should leave them in for, should the balls be left in place while using the washroom, the proper way to strengthen your pelvic muscles (and perform Kegal exercises) with them in place, and general safety precautions. All of which would be a great addition to the packaging for anyone who has heard about ben wa balls but has never used a set before. For that kind of information, all you ben wa newbies out there had better get on the net and do your research first before you start sticking anything up your vag. Best to be safe rather than sorry and all.

They do come in a cute little carrying case that makes G think of wedding favors (interesting favor…).

I used the Blue Blossom balls for a week straight and a few hours a day before attempting to review. Once they’re in place I realized that my pelvic muscles started to squeeze naturally with the addition of a stimulus there, it’s a sensation that results in a dull ache in the pit of the stomach that will take a bit of getting used to. By actually contracting and releasing your muscles willingly will help to increase the sensation and work the muscles. If it hurts beyond a dull ache (and any woman that has experienced menstrual cramping can handle a dull ache), discontinue use. Ben wa balls aren’t for everyone. See the key is to remember to actively work the muscles while they’re in place to get the most out of them.

If you have the balls in place during your day, best to take them out when you have to use the washroom, just to be safe. Rinse them off if you can and put them back in when you’re done. Do that. Trust me. Really. I had the misfortune of having to uhh *cough* go looking for one once… Just take them out.

Moving on, the part of using the Blue Blossom balls that I have the most trouble with is taking them out. Technically, you’re supposed to clench and release and the balls should pop out. The first one comes out just fine by clenching. That, or it’s closer to the vaginal opening due to gravity and movement when I forget to keep exercising the muscles  for a while. As for the second one and the one deeper in, not so easy. My kegal muscles aren’t strong enough just yet that popping them out comes that easily (why I got the balls in the first place) so that last one’s not coming out without a helping hand. Squat, relax, reach in. Hard enough getting one finger wrapped around the ball enough to pull it out let alone two. With a bit of tricky maneuvering, out it comes. Phew!

All in all, I think the Blue Blossom Glass Ben Wa Walls are ok. They’re not the best balls for a brand new ben wa user (like me) and something with a bit more texture and weight for added stimulation, something perhaps a bit larger and definitely connected with a string for easy insertion and removal would be better suited to get the most out of pelvic floor muscle strengthening. Once your muscles have strengthened and you’ve become used to the sensation of the balls in place and how to use them, then the Blue Blossom would be a great choice to graduate to. Right now these aren’t for me.

In my previous rabbit vibe review I described my difficulty in achieving vaginal (or G-spot) orgasm.  I know I’m not the only woman out there with this distinct problem. It’s enough to make sex frustrating and something I’ve been working through ever since I first became sexually active. The more I get to practice and eventually it’ll start working for me, right? Here’s hoping.

The good people at Adam and Eve have come to my rescue on this sexual dilemma with this next treasure trove of sexy extras for review. They included the Oooh! That’s It! G-Spot Stimulating Gel to get me on my way.

This gel is one of their many supplements aimed to help make sex that much more pleasurable. The Oooh! That’s It! G-Spot Stimulating Gel comes with a “Find It” Guide (a ‘road map’ to help locate the elusive G-spot). The Guide includes a diagram (one that should be easy to follow if only I had x-ray vision and could see through my own pelvis) to visually show you how to locate the G-spot, descriptions on different ways to stimulate the G-spot with a partner, with your own hand, or with a vibrator and finishes off with Kama-Sutra-like diagrams for even more visual aid.

The gel itself comes in a small and discreet 30 ml (1 oz) squeezable bottle. It has a shelf-life of 18 months. As with any product to be applied directly on the body, it is always a wise idea to read the ingredient list to make sure you aren’t allergic to anything in it. Nothing kills a pleasurable moment than a distinct “that’s not supposed to burn!!” burning sensation. The G-Spot Stimulating Gel ingredients include: water, Propylene Glycol, sunflower seed oil, Triethanolamine Acrylates, peppermint oil, Menthyl Lactate, Methylisothiazolinone (and) Phenethyl Alcohol (and) PPG-2-Methyl Ether, sweet almond oil, Tocopheryl Acetate, Arginine HCI, and carrot oil. The gel should not be used by women who are pregnant or by anyone was been diagnosed with an STI. If irritation does occur, discontinue use and wash thoroughly. And next time, be sure to read the ingredients first.

Does it work? That’s actually a harder question to answer than it should be. Here’s why. It still comes down to locating the G-spot, something I’m not quite getting. Curve index and middle fingers slightly upward and insert in vagina. The G-spot is supposed to be “a small bean shaped area that lies just behind the upper front wall of a woman’s vagina”. Bean shape? Err..ok. The Guide goes on to explain that it should feel like “a small lump that swells as it is stimulated” and once stimulated “will feel spongy”.

I don’t think I got it and it baffles me. G has shown me a few times that ”it’s right there” as he inserted his fingers with the gel in place and massaged. I did feel something and it did feel pleasurable though slightly, not at all enough to consider orgasmic. Try as I might, I can’t seem to find this “small lump that swells” on my own as the Guide says I will.

That aside does the gel stimulate? I’ve cheated and used it on my clit that I know I derive pleasure from and yes…yes it does. Some of the best orgasms I’ve reached via manual clitoral stimulation came out of that gel. It leaves behind a distinctly cooling sensation that’s quite pleasing and a sweet menthol scent due to the peppermint oil. The gel does a great job of increasing the blood flow to the area to which it is applied leaving the nerve endings there incredibly heightened. It works quite well on my clit and as soon as I can figure out the whole G-spot dilemma I’m sure it’ll work even better there.

Now using it, as I have been doing, incorrectly (and I will get it right soon enough) has worked well for me as putting the product on the clit is simple enough. A problem I ran into while attempting to use it on where I’ve been told my G-spot should be is getting the gel inserted (either on my finger or on the head of a vibe) and applied to the right place is difficult. The gel tends to slide around as I tried to insert my finger and most of it wound up to the side of my vagina. Even inserting a vibe with the gel applied to the head also didn’t go in as clean as I would’ve liked it to leaving most of the gel rubbed down my vaginal wall.

I do like this gel and I plan on continuing to use it both “incorrectly” (on my clit) and “correctly” (as I continue to try and find my G-spot). I’m quite sure that with much more practice and use, I’m on the better road to dicovery more than I ever was before. I also believe that the more I attempt to use it the way it’s meant to be used, the more the insertion of the gel to the right spot will become easier (perhaps I need to be stimulated more).

If you’re a woman like me and are having a more difficult time than normal trying to find that elusive G-spot than the Oooh! That’s It G-Spot Stimulating Gel is a great product to help you on your quest. Slowly but surely, it’s starting to work for me.

A bit of a warning. This review will be part product-oriented, part details about my personal habits, and part adventures of a man’s first winky-toy.

First I should probably illustrate how I usually double-click my mouse. 99% of the time it’s in front of my computer with one hand on the controls and the other on my unit, which is covered by a nice towel. Why a towel? Well not only does it mean zero clean-up afterwards, but the ever-so-slight abrasiveness will desensitize the head a little over time (talking years here). Right after a shower is even better as the towel is wet so it’s a little softer and slightly warm. Oddly, I’m not a huge fan of the bare hand, which means wrestling my dragon when I’m not in my lair presents some difficulties.

Back to the CyberSkin Male Masturbator. The key selling points to this little marvel are the “cyberskin”, “action view” and anal aspects. On this product the cyberskin isn’t what I’d call entirely realistic, mostly because it has a little too much give compared to normal skin. The colour and texture are pretty close though. In any case it feels pretty good against your skin when you’re going balls-deep. Also, the material is phthalate-free leaving it entirely safe to use. The “action view” is what you’ll obviously notice most. The clear “ice” material (that’s what it’s called on the package) that comprises the shafts are only slightly visually distorted, so all in all you get a pretty good view of all the action (see how I tied that one up?). At first it was a little odd seeing my cock go into this thing, but eventually the freakishness wears off and you go back to whatever visual aid you had in mind. Probably a good idea to have a visual aid even if you’re not normally one to use them, as your eyes will likely drift back to this thing and become distracted by the visual. Now, if seeing your thing in all its engorged glory gets you off, then this is certainly a product for you!

It’s the anal aspect that turns this review. Since I’ve never actually experienced anal IRL, I can’t really speak to how realistic it is. That said, I found the anal aperture very tight but not to the point of any real discomfort.

The inside of the CyberSkin Action View Pussy & Ass Male Masturbator is heavily ribbed with squared-off sphincters. On the first try I wouldn’t exactly call the experience enitrely pleasant. Knowing how much lube to apply must be something you learn from experience with these sorts of toys. Once I got myself in, I gave myself a few strokes then added more lube through the back end until it felt comfortable. I’ll say right now its a good idea to use a good lube, since a lower-quality lube will require you to use too much and just pool. If it pools, it’s that much more to spill out when you pull out.

Oh yeah.. a tip for the first-timers. Have a towel ready. After you’re done all your juices (cum and leftover lube) will be in this thing ready to spill all over your floor/chair/bed when you’re no longer creating a plug with your dong.

One thing I was never expecting was the sound. Yeah, I know… I’ll explain if I can. There’s a sound that comes out as your head is running along the sphincter walls. The sound is sort of hard to describe. The closest I can describe it – like running a plastic tube along a tuneless plastic xylophone. I know that’s not very helpful but the first time I heard this sound I had to stop for a WTF moment, and the description of it was so intriguing to S that she demanded a personal demonstration, which led to her laughing so hard she was in pain (and you can imagine me, sitting in front of her as she’s laughing, still using this thing). You get over it after a while and good lube does mute the sound significantly. Just allow yourself a WTF moment as well.

Cleaning and maintenance is pretty easy. A soap and water rubdown and an air dry do the trick. I’m told giving it a slight powder with the special renewing powder or even just corn starch will keep it in perfect form for ages.

Does the CyberSkin Action View Pussy & Ass Male Masturbator feel good? After a while all the oddities fall to the wayside and you’re left with a fairly enjoyable experience. It does take a little more effort than my towel but it’s worth the effort, and the low price that Adam and Eve is asking for. For a first-timer in the world of male masturbators, it’s certainly doing a good job.

A recommended buy. Now, if you’ll excuse me…

Ever since I first became sexually active at 19 and began browsing local sex shops to indulge my curiosity in adult toys, I’ve been fascinated by rabbit vibrators. There would be shelves dedicated to them, among the many other vibrators to choose from, with many on display to play around with (well, obviously not entirely, but just to see what they do). The “rabbit” in question was never just a rabbit, but any number of little creatures, while the head spun, twisted and vibed in a number of different ways.

The amazing people at Adam & Eve have a variety of rabbit vibrators to choose from and when G received one in the mail for me to review, well, he can attest to my delight. See, I’m still new to sex toys, never built a collection (save for one other vibe picked up at a sex toy party) and definitely never had my own rabbit vibe.

I begin what is hopefully my own rabbit collection with the Butterfly Climaxer. A delightful white-and-clear toy that offers a rotating head, rotating beads in the shaft (both of which function at three different speeds), a cute (yes, it’s cute) vibrating butterfly clit stimulator (also functioning at three speeds) and the option to change the direction of the rotating head. For anyone new to rabbit vibes like myself, that leaves a lot of room for experimentation.

I’ve given the Butterfly Climaxer a few tries and have learned a few things about myself in the process. First off, I am not vaginally as sensitive as I really should be (though I realized this a while ago, the Climaxer helped me nail the issue home) and have trouble reaching orgasm vaginally (finding and hitting my G-spot is an entire separate issue all together). The rotating head and beads, at various speed levels, didn’t do much to stimulate me internally. I felt the presence of the head and shaft there and and what little sensitivity I do have let me enjoy the experience but I could not reach orgasm from it.

The only way I have been able to reach orgasm is through clitoral stimulation.  That tiny area of concentrated nerve endings that sends me into shivers; I have to hit it just right for it to have any effect. G advised me on a way of using my thumb to manipulate the bullet-butterfly so that the antennae can stimulate my clit just right, which it does a pretty good job of doing once angled in the right way. With that much motion going on internally as well from the vibrations, getting that perfect angle isn’t all that easy.

I find it quite appropriate that it’s called the Butterfly Climaxer as I was able to reach climax, that happy fuzzy feeling of not-quite-orgasm where my mind is simply buzzing, quite a few times but only able to properly orgasm twice. I don’t fault the toy for this as I believe using a brand new toy is like getting comfortable with a new sex partner, it takes a few tries to get it right. Sex never came all that easily for me and I’m still in the process of exploring my own body to see what works and what doesn’t. Finding ways to make my vagina more sensitive to stimulation and therefore achieving a full orgasm is my current goal.

The Butterfly Climaxer has a plastic handle with easy-to-reach controls (even when you’re not looking) and a clear jelly shaft that slicks up easily with lube for better insertion. Two powerful motors control the shaft and the bullet-butterfly separately for various degrees of intensity. The vibe requires three AA batteries that rests inside a waterproof chamber leaving this toy waterproof for in-shower fun and easier clean up with a mild soap and warm water (or better yet, a good sex toy cleaner).

All in all, the Butterfly Climaxer is a great toy for experimentation, especially if you’re new to using rabbit vibrators. I can’t compare it to other rabbit vibes as I haven’t had the opportunity to try others yet but I hopefully will be able to soon enough. I’m sure the more I become accustomed to it, the more I’ll enjoy it and it will certainly add to more interesting times alone with G.

I’m actually glad these are the first two we chose to try out from the variety pack we picked up. After all is said and done, one was quite enjoyable while the other was anything but.

First the PleasureMax It’s got a combination of studs and ribs, as well as the roomier tip. It went on pretty easily and stayed on throughout the session with little to no discomfort. The amount of lube was a little lacking but it was manageable. There was a slight crinkling noise at first but that subsided quickly. S did note that unless I went really slow she really couldn’t tell the difference between the ribs and the studs, but there was something obviously there. perhaps someone more sensitive would be able to discern between the two. In the end is was a fairly enjoyable experience for two people who would very much prefer to avoid condoms when possible.

On a different night, we tried the Intense Sensations. I’d like to tell you how this felt long-term, but unfortunately I couldn’t get the fucking thing on! It was ridiculously tight and had almost no lube on it. It was a pain to roll down and when we finally got it unraveled it just contracted back up. We actually went through two of them because the first one was completely unmanageable. The second one stayed on just enough that sex was at least possible, but the sensation was so artificial and obtrusive that we just did away with it entirely. This product was also studded, but for the life of me I couldn’t tell even with my fingers. Maybe it was a bad batch or something (they obviously were not expired or recalled) but it’s condom experiences like these that cause young people to remove condoms from their sex lives, increasing the chances of STIs and unwanted pregnancies. A good rule of thumb that I’ll roll with from now on is that if getting the condom on takes so long and is so uncomfortable and frustrating that you lose your erection… don’t use that condom.

So there you have it. Quite obvious that brand name is only the beginning of reliability and quality in condoms. I’d certainly use the PleasureMax again, but I’m glad we only got two of the Intense Sensations since I won’t be going back to those. We have a few more from the variety pack that we’ll be trying out in the near future.

Closing thought: Even when using “pre-lubricated” condoms, have extra lube on hand. Trust me on this one.

What exactly does this mean? Well obviously S is a very attractive and very desirable woman. She also has certain needs in the BDSM-verse that I’m currently unable to provide for purely academic reasons. Because of this we have the arrangement that she is free to find a person or people who can sate these desires until I’m learned enough to do it myself. That being the case, S has a history of not choosing the best suitors and playmates. In fact she regularly beats herself over the head with that (in a very non-enjoyable way, mind you) which I’ve tried to get her to stop doing. So, in order to provide a little bit of safety and comfort, all such potentials must first come through me.

It’s pretty simple, really. I meet you. I get an impression of you. I drive home the point that your relationship with her is something I have to sign off on at all times (being purely a secondary relationship to ours), and if you show me and that fact proper respect, I OK it. The moment that changes, it’s over.

I’ve already had to turn away potentials due to lack of respect and attempting to use this arrangement that S and I have as an in-road to bypassing our primary relationship. Let me be clear: the hold I have on her is purely one of her choosing. If she decides that a suitor is a better mate than I, I will not stand in the way. However, do not think for one picosecond that anything other than total honesty with me and her will work in your favour in any way. This arrangement is as much her choice as it is mine.

So fa we have yet to research and define our “protocol” but should the need arise I think it would be a simple matter.

I guess this could be seem as a step in the direction of collaring, but at the moment I don’t feel we’re any closer to making that happen.

NASA Scientists Plan To Approach Girl By 2018

Now, I’m not a huge fan of condoms. This should be of little shock for two reasons:

1) Not many men (and for that matter, women) are fans of condoms. Necessary? Yes. Fans? Meh.

2) I’m a big fan cumming inside a woman. There’s an emotion that harkens back hundreds of millennia. Primal.

That said, situation the way it is, we’ve decided to make the most of it and go on a bit of a tour in the land of condoms.  Why just settle for a common thin when Japanese ultra-thins (let me hear you, Kimono fans) when ribbed, studded, slathered with all kinds of lubes and creams and colours and tastes are available?

I THINK NOT!!!

Hehehe… caps are fun… PENIS!!!

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*cough*

Anywho, S and I will be giving a good number of different condoms a good turn, and posting reviews of them in bunches. Considering how short a condom review would be, I believe groupings of them would be best. How to group them, you ask? Well they do come in mixed packs for reasons… right?

If you know of any good/interesting brands of condoms out there that wouldn’t be normally available and would like to see them reviewed, please let me know!

One of them was my response to G’s collaring post explaining my experiences in the world of BDSM. I’ve had a number of crazy and wild times experimenting with kink before I met G. Thing is I don’t know where I want to go with it. I know I’m kinky, I know I’m submissive in bed but beyond that, control is such an important part of my life that it’s not an easy thing by far to even consider switching. I have a long way to go and the odd thing is that despite my inner desire to rebel against the concept, I love G and I do want that collar when we’re both ready for it. The post will continue as will our explorations and discussions when I have my head on straight.

A few weeks ago G and I had a pretty awesome dinner and movie date with his mentor the lovely Shasta. Having long drawn out talks about relationships current and past and the finer dynamics of her collaring experiences I’ve realized exactly how much her and I are alike. Her struggles with it are a lot like mine. I do believe I’ll have much to learn from her just as much as G will.

Another post I had planned and started was a year end review. G did his and I felt I should probably do the same. While writing I realized I was starting to, once again, write too much. I tend to be very wordy in case you haven’t noticed. I was running into that and I had only recounted the year up to June. I’m having trouble continuing the post at this current point: the Disturbed concert I went to where I picked up a guy with whom I slept with. He ended up whoring me out to his friend after. I had never felt so low in my life. I still have trouble thinking about that time. My year end post is still waiting to be completed and I may go back and finish it entirely or recall past events in different posts when I feel it necessary.

I’ve had a very crazy start of the year to say the very least. I was recently diagnosed a type 2 diabetic and am required to check my blood glucose levels regularly and am on Metformin to control it. I recently learned (though I still need to see my doc and confirm) that Metformin has a side effect of increased fertility. The opposite of what I want as I’m taking Yasmin for birth control. In light of this, G has embraced the added need for condoms. Anything to prevent my getting knocked up. He also figures if condoms are needed they might as well be fun. We’ll have a rather amusing time in the near future exploring condoms that will incease our sexual experiences.

Speaking of G and my recent diagnosis, I haven’t been taking it all that well. I’m stressed to say the least. Being told that my health is worse for wear while also struggling with the future of my employment in what is still a recessive time. On top of that, an additional increase of tension, blame, and pressure at home left me in a very bad place. I was on the phone late one night with G at the tail end of a bottle of wine that I had cracked and finished in that hour willing my life to end. I got over it in the next day or two but not without hearing all about it. I don’t expect many people to deal with that all too well and G is no different. He threatened to leave if I did that again and he has every right to do so. It won’t happen again. I’m doing much better now mentally. I have the best support outside the home that a girl could ask for.

I woke up today to my phone ringing. When I saw who it was I decided not to tell him to shove off. Tai is my gay boyfriend. He is the Will to my Grace, the Clyde to my Bonnie, the Sunny to my Cher (that’s right, I’m Cher…bitch! [I know he's reading]) We go way back. As far as we’re concerned, our connection is older than time. Tai and I are soul twins, carved out of the same block of cosmic ice. I met him online years ago. He lived in Colorado back then and now Florida. Him and I are so close in fact that G had to sit through a phone interrogation by Tai before he and I started dating. Tai just wanted to make sure I found someone that wouldn’t end up hurting me in the end. Anyway, I hadn’t heard from Tai since before the holidays and it had me concerned. After a few mis-placed communications, we chatted this afternoon and I learned what had kept him away. Needless to say I’m shocked and since I’m not about to air someone else’s business in this blog, I’ll leave it to say that it put my diabetic scare in great perspective. It’s not that bad at all. If Tai can take his life scare into stride and perspective, well, he wouldn’t expect me to do any less.  His mere words of “I’m not worried about you, honey. I know you can handle this” is all I need.

Right now, I’m good. I learned that my employment scare is a bit of a non-issue right now. I work in retail and we were told that the contract my store had with the mall expired at the end of this month and may not be renewed. The store might close and we’d all be shuffled around somewhere but, guaranteed, our hours would suffer. I was informed earlier this week that our store will remain at the mall until at least the end of February and negotiations continue. In fact, my hours increase next week.

Most of this post was written on the BlackBerry App for my new Curve 8520. My first post using the app actually. It was written on the way to and on the way back from a well needed and deserved (if I do say so myself) facial and massage appointment at Scruples Salon & Spa. It just goes to show that I’m on my way back to being my divalicious self again.

Every day gets easier. My blood sugar levels grow lower by the day and each day I’m reminded of who exactly are the ones that surround me with love. Much more will happen to myself, to G and to both of us together. Fun things for the blog and Adam & Eve reviews will be appearing here shortly.

I’ll be just fine, I know I will.